Relationship with Your Parents = Relationship with Others
I got married before seven years. Child birth is getting delayed because of problem with my husband. He is not having sufficient counting to give birth to a child. Undergoing treatment but thousands of obstacles in it. Taking tablet but discontinuing it. Main reason is my in-laws.
We are living separately due to money matters. I don’t want to take legal action because I am from a middle class family and having less support from my brother and father. I am earning for my livelihood but in-laws require all money from me. Hence we came separate.
After that also they require share from my husband. Spoiling my family life. Hence I am earning. Again tomorrow he is consulting a doctor. No obstacles should occur again due to relations. He is a temple priest and doing pooja to lord Vinayaga. Ganapathy is his favorite god. But still obstacles and no success.
He is worrying about parents, brother, sister and all relations but not about wife. But I want his entire love and affection because I have no support other than him.
Chant “CHICORY, WALNUT, CHERRY PLUM, TOGETHER DIVINE” 200 times over a glass of water and drink it.
How is your relationship with your parents? Do you really love them?
Have you ever said to your father, “My dear father I love you from my heart.” Have you ever repaid your father’s love? Did you ever communicate with him with open heart? You are his semen.
Have you ever thought of acknowledging your mother’s love and affection? She is your first nurturer? The first food in your blood is her blood. She bore and endured all the pains for your sake. The first smile – the first energy of love – you received in this world is hers. Prostrate to her. Say, “My dear mother I love you. You are the source of my love. You are the source of all my relationships.”
Do this for 21 days. If you think it uncomfortable do it mentally.
Your husband is a priest in Ganesh temple. You become like Lord Ganesha in respecting your parents.
Thanks for your prompt and good response.
Some bitter relationship I have with my father. You are right. He has given me everything. But, after my schooling I am not able to continue my studies in college due to his financial capacity. So I was compelled to work and continue my studies through correspondence.
I obeyed, worked and completed my graduation. I also learnt computer courses, typing, shorthand etc., during my working. But all the talents developed by them only because in school days we were doing milk business.
So, dual role started at the age of 12 and started earning money at that age. But I was having a feeling that they did not send me to college. But today I am a good position equal to those who are educated in college.
Today, my mother is not alive. But she has given me everything to face challenges and lead a decent life in the society. Before marriage also I was giving my earnings to my mother only. Not even a single paisa to my father. Now I realize the mistakes done by me. I will start respecting my father and get his blessings.
Please suggest remedies to get her blessings. Now my mind is clear.
I really thank you for making realize my mistakes and the way you answer is wonderful.
God has sent you to all of us like me who are suffering mentally in their hearts. You are rendering wonderful services to mankind. Thanks a million to you and your team.
Do it mentally to your mother.
There is no Second Chance in Marriage
Interview is one thing. I have only one wife and I don’t have prior experience either. This is my first and last marriage. How do I achieve harmony in my marriage, when I found nothing of that sort from day one of my marriage?
What qualities represent harmony for you?
Peace and Happiness are the two qualities that signify harmony for me. If I find them in my marriage then I would say I have harmony in my marriage.
Where else in your life you have found peace?
If I sit by the stream in my native village, which flows from a nearby mountain, I will find peace. The whole area is nothing but trees or green bushes. Even if they are not crowded, they are pleasant and soothing.
Anyway Green represents harmony.
Take a picture of that stream or any stream that gives you that peace.
Keep the picture on the left hand, tap continuously until that feeling gets strongly registered in the mind.
What represents happiness for you?
It is our joint family gathering during festival days. Of course we don’t meet any more and I don’t have a picture either.
I am sure you can hook into those memories of happiness once again. Just keep thinking of those happy memories and tap.
Now the feeling of happiness has come to you.
Now, affirm, “I find harmony in my married life’ for as many times as possible.
Govind was about to learn car driving and he was scared. He affirmed, ‘Even though I am afraid of learning car driving, I choose to learn it in the same way I learnt scooter riding’. In fact, he successfully learnt car driving without anybody’s help.
In the case of a job interview, we would have some instances where we have done well. So it is easier for affirmations to work. In the case of marriage, where we can’t bring a required emotional point of reference, then this technique of NLP can be employed.
My married life is like living in a hostel
My married life is like a hostel life. We two are living like roommates only. He is taking food, and bathing at his mother’s home, coming only in the late evening after finishing all his routines. He is not willing to go out with me.
We two are working and have problems in money matters.
In-laws also wanted to keep him with them at all times. He is the third son. All others in family are well attached to their families blessed with all boons and children. But I am living like sanyasi and no children after seven years of marriage. Not all are co-operating even for small things also. Undergoing treatment and that too not successful till date.
Born in a poor temple’s priest family and after many struggles and hard work, completed my graduation and currently earning a small income monthly. But in-laws need my money fully and problem created there and we came separately. After that also they are begging for money from my husband.
He believes them and not trusting me. I am doing and thinking everything for our welfare only. But he does not understand me. Not going out with me, but willing to go with others.
I am working from my young age. So I don’t want to quit the job and be idle. But in a joint-family I have to give all money to them.
We are separate now but my life is like a sanyasi life.
All my relations are coming with their partners. But I am going alone to all functions. He is not at all willing to come out with me.
Gone through your site and all mantras are well, good and useful.
I am a devotee of Shridi Sai Baba and I trust the reply given by you is the remedy given by Guru Shridi Sai. Jai Sairam. Sainath Maharaj Ki Jai.
Throughout our life, we hunt for love, needing caring and affection from others. When we don’t get it, we fail to understand that we are demanding more and more from a person who does not have what we want. Instead, we hang on to him.
Our demand annoys him and he distances himself away. The paradox is he married you with the intention that you would give him love. There is an unconscious decision is your life before birth that you will always give love to your husband without any expectation. Now instead of giving, you want to receive. That is why you are not getting.
Instead of trying to get, become a giver. That is why you are named Someshwari.
Give love even when there is no receiving.
Giving love without expecting to receive will make you magnanimous.
Thank every person and every event in your life daily.
Meditate on Sai Baba, reminding yourself of his anecdotes of Divine love and visualize his love filling up your heart. Then from your heart let his love flow through your hands to your husband and his family.
Do this daily. Thank them. Pray for them.
Chant the following: “CHICORY, CHERRY PLUM, TOGETHER FIND DIVINE LOVE WITH”.
Chant this as many times as possible.
Faith and Endurance will carry us forward.
Write this in a paper and keep it under the pillow.
Don’t let others use your goodwill
Question to Naran
I am managing my family of four, including my wife and widowed father. Due to my economic constraint, I had taken some loans. Both my wife and my father knew my financial situation very well.
Meanwhile, last week, my father sold some ancestral property that belongs to my grand-parents. Even though as per law, I had to get that share, my father wanted to keep the money for himself, without having any regards for my financial situation – which includes taking care of him. I don’t know how to explain to him.
Answer by Naran
I think your father is misusing your goodwill. As a (Bach Flower) Centaury person, you don’t know how to handle this situation. Do the following technique, which is part of the Chakra Balancing exercise followed by Reiki practitioners:
1. Keep your left hand on your Solar Plexus chakra and right hand on the Heart Chakra
2. Chant the mantra, “Rum Yum”
Next day Ashok called Naran and said, “My father approached me and told me that he would like give me enough money to pay back all my loans. If I say I am flabbergasted, it would be an understatement”.
A Centaury person is a weak-willed person. He will be used by others and treated like a door-mat, others having no concern for him. The Solar Plexus would be weak for a weak-willed person.
The right hand is the giving hand, while the left hand is the receiving hand. Thus, energy from the heart fills up the solar plexus.
When there is a person ready for manipulation, then there will be a person to manipulate. As the Solar Plexus is strengthened, automatically the opposite person can’t manipulate.
All-Time All-Purpose Healing CD
Tony was listening to the Bach Flower Meditation CD twice a day, after religiously trying out various healing techniques. While he could solve his entire career and finance related issues through those techniques, yet for some reason he couldn’t find a solution for his marriage. Even though his parents put in their best of their efforts, they couldn’t find a bride for him.
He was suggested to listen to the Bach Flower Meditation CD twice a day – with or without head phone and with or without full concentration.
After listening to the CD for one month he found himself busy at work. Before that, he used to find very little motivation to work. He welcomed this change. He continued listening to the CD.
After listening to the CD for two more months, he found himself a bride, through one of his relatives.
How the Bach Flower Meditation CD has helped him? Rather when we should use the CD?
Tony listened to it when he couldn’t decide upon the healing technique that would suit him to fix his marriage. Understand that every healing technique may not work at every time. You need to change to different techniques, as your mind and body changes every second. As through the CD, you address to each of the 38 flowers to come and heal you, the flowers take over your case and provide you the necessary healing.
How long I need to listen to it?
It varies from situation to situation. In the case of Usha, who misplaced her car keys, while listening to the CD, she walked like a sleep-walker and picked the key from the place where she has left it originally. She didn’t remember the place and neither was she prompted. She simply walked like a robot to the exact location.
In the case of a child who was mentally disturbed due to separation from his grant parents, it took a couple of days. Please refer this link: http://healbymeditation.wordpress.com/2009/04/24/meditation-on-bach-flowers/
During pregnancy you need to listen during the whole period of pregnancy. Please refer this link: http://healbybachflowers.wordpress.com/2009/10/13/bach-flower-remedies-for-pregnancy/
How shall I listen to the CD?
You can listen while walking (with head phones) or driving or in the meditation pose (with head phones).
Wolf My Pal
My wife won’t listen to me. Neither my child would listen to me. However, the animal spirit guide Wolf will do that.
Every day in the morning, I talk to the Animal Spirit Guide Wolf first. I tell it what I am going to do that day and ask it to help me manage those affairs.
One day I had to talk to my parents. I was expecting some arguments, which I wanted to avoid. Therefore, I requested Wolf to go and speak to them on my behalf first, before I reach there.
When I reached my parents’ house, I need not take any extra efforts to convince them. Somehow, they seem to understand my side of the story, without me convincing them in any way.
So, folks I want you to know that I never handle anything in my life without seeking the help of my pal, the animal spirit guide Wolf. In addition, I carry his picture in my purse.
As told by Venky
Say good bye to lover of your past
How does one forget — forget one’s past love?
We got separated many years ago and now he is married. But, after many years, he got in touch with me. What started off as two people catching up with each other’s lives, took totally a different turn. I keep wondering if it was a mistake to have parted from him earlier, which has affected me badly. Now, I can’t help thinking of him and it hurts me a lot.
However, getting back together is unthinkable as I will never destroy another family. Please, please tell me what I can do to forget him and move on with my own life!!!
For overcoming love pangs, and to move away swiftly from the one whom you loved, there are four Bach flower remedies – CHICORY, WALNUT, GENTIAN and WILD ROSE.
Buy these remedies from any homeopathy shop. Put 6 pills of each in a 200 ml water bottle. Have small sips from that water every one hour. Before taking the sips, shake the bottle ten times.
It is your mind drama and you have to overcome this by prudence only. Think why you need him and list out the disadvantages of being with him. These disadvantages will work as seeds of separation. You cannot escape that.
In addition, write the following affirmation, “I RELEASE ALL THE PAST TO BE AT PEACE. DIVINE TAKES ME IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION” as many times as possible.
Daily, listen to the CD, “I love myself”, prepared by me. You can check out the link to purchase the CD: http://naranhealingproducts.wordpress.com/2010/09/15/faq-on-buying-naran%e2%80%99s-products/
Thank you for all your help. Will truly try to do whatever you have said. But in case I’m unable to get any of the Bach flower remedies, can I just write or recite them?
Yes, I do know that my mind has a lot to do with my unhappiness and am trying my best to convince myself always that the best path to take is to forget him. But it’s really difficult.
Are there also any switch words/angel numbers/animal guides, which will also help me in this problem?
As you can see, I am really desperate and will use whatever means to get some peace of mind.
You mail me where you are residing. I will guide you where to get the remedies.
You can write the names of these remedies and help yourself. You can also chant,” I accept myself totally and I choose to forget him as I have forgotten my childhood days”
Download a picture of BLACK TOURMALINE and keep it under your pillow.
Heal your Family Life through Gem Remedies
When marriage is delayed
Pearl and Nine Gems
Have a picture of Rabbit in the couple’s bedroom.
Pearl it is very helpful.
Easy and normal delivery
1. Diamond, Yellow Sapphire and Pearl: this combination makes the foetus grow well. Right through pregnancy this can be given.
2. During the last three days of delivery, Ruby has to be given.
3. Chant “Together Divine Yellow Sapphire”
Heal extra marital affairs
Chicory, Clematis, Crab Apple, (gem remedy) Coral
Have a good relationship with your husband,
Pearl and Emerald are the remedies. Even Yellow Sapphire has to be taken.
For any divorce proceedings
Ruby is essential. You have the thought, “I don’t want to face him”. They won’t come to you again. You will get separated easily.
Finding Peace and Harmony at home
Call upon the animal spirit guide Chimpanzee, when you want…
- Peace and harmony to prevail; there is a conflict and misunderstanding: call upon CHIMPANZEE and affirm, “Please solve this misunderstanding for me”. It will heal the situation for you.
- Don’t want to have no problems inside your family call upon BLUE WHALE and CHIMPANZEE.
- To make amends with someone
- To become most compassionate, nurturing and caring
- To make children listen to their parents
- When you need a new fresh approach
- To break of the routine
When you come across Chimpanzee
- Take care of your diet patterns
- Take nutritious food
- Ignore people who gossip
- Time for self-assessment (no point in being the same person as you had been in the past)
Don’t Want My Unhappiness Extended
My husband went for official tour for 2 weeks. After 2 weeks they extended that to 1 more week. Now they are asking to stay more days. What is the best thing to chant or something that will help not to stay away any longer outside? Please do help us in this regard. Otherwise our overall life situation will be a big mess. Could you please help me with your divine words!!!!!!
Chant CENTAURY MIMULUS CORAL
I am chanting whatever you have suggested me for my husband’s official tour and they didn’t extend that any more. What a magical world you have created for us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Centaury: Not able to say “NO” when the company extends the stay. This is for her husband, as wife can chant on behalf of her husband, for they are connected.
Mimulus: Known fear of extension. For all known fears like, fear of lizards, Mimulus is the remedy
Coral: Complements centaury-type personalities
I have no genuine friends. Is there is any remedy to get good friends? I had a couple of best friends in school and college, and many long distance good friends, but not any girlfriends whom I can call as best friends after my marriage.
1. Yes! By taking Bach flower remedy WATER VIOLET you can get good friends. You can take 3 pills 3 times a day.
2. You can keep the picture of Water violet in your pocket (download them or the picture is available in the Bach Flower centre).
3. Chant Water violet.
4. You can also write the name Water violet daily in a notebook – 20 to 30 times.
Good Communication and Understanding
I have another incredible turnaround.
I want to preface this by saying that I have also been using the circle technique to utilize a set of Bach flowers you gave me for releasing old fears and securing a new job. I have also been writing down some of the mantras from your site so I have been close to healing vibes if you will.
In any case I have been in a serious conflict with my boyfriend for a few days – the culmination of a little over a year of disagreement. I have explained to him again and again my views and why I have been upset with him.
For this entire time I have not felt listened to you. Growing desperate yesterday I just remembered the animal spirit guide BLUE WHALE. I asked Blue whale to help resolve the situation because I felt I couldn’t let it go without being understood. It was too frustrating.
Over the next few hours he SUDDENLY started actually listening and understanding what I have been saying. Many things were cleared up! This does not mean we have decided to continue our relationship necessarily but there is such peace for me in knowing that I am not doomed to always be unheard. He also was able to express to me several things which were on his mind.
Thank you Blue whale! Thank you Naran!
Harmony with Husband
I read through your blog “Animal Spirit Guide” wonderful and amazing. This really will help me to release my pile-up loads that were stock up and pressure me all this while. My problem is how I should call them for help in my below situation:
- For peace and harmony – my husband use to nag for petty things the moment he gets home and this really annoys kids and me.
- Don’t want to have problem inside family how to call upon BLUE WHALE and CHIMPANZEE
“Blue whale, be here in the house with me and my husband and establish harmony here.” say this once daily or whenever the conflict arises. You can say this again and again also.
My husband has changed his behavior
Switch words “TOGETHER DIVINE” have worked out a better situation than the past that I had undergone. I used to chant them a minimum of 200 times and above that whenever I feel like.
My husband has changed his behavior.
In fact, to be more precise, my mental state has changed. I answer him patiently and calmly.
And he even understands the situations and behaves himself in a better way. I also got an appreciation of words on a weekend. Anyways, I am continuing to do so.
The only things that has not changed his alcohol intake. Though it has reduced his intake to a limit, but I am not sure.
Once again thanks for all your divine support.
Chanting and healing is not done to change others and control others.
What is the meaning of TOGETHER DIVINE? Let all parts of my mind unite with the Divine so that I become a silent observer of what is happening around me.
The more divinity fills up one’s consciousness, one changes mentally and one’s outlook changes too. One look from a higher perception and understand that every event is happening as per the divine order; every person in our life is as per the divine will; when Divine love changes me totally, the other person changes totally too.
Love can make Life. Judgment and expectation break life.
Best of luck
Abundant Support from Family and Flowers
My domestic help Anu cried saying that she has been abandoned with her child, by her husband a few years ago.
She is trying to earn and educate the boy. She lives with her poor mother, brother and sister-in-law. The sister-in-law is unhappy that this girl is being sheltered here and supported by the brother. This gives chance for lots of infighting between husband and wife. Anu feels guilty that she is the cause of her dear brother’s suffering.
She saw me giving Bach flower remedy to my mother and asked me what that is. I told her how it works. She requested me for some flowers for herself.
I gave her RESCUE REMEDY, PINE, CENTAURY, STAR OF BETHLEHEM, CHICORY, WHITE CHESTNUT and HONEY SUCKLE with WALNUT.
Reasons: guilt (Pine), feeling used (Centaury), trauma/ pain (Star of Bethlehem), unable to let go/ clinging to brother (Chicory, Walnut), thoughts which haunt day and night (White chestnut) and regret of the past (Honey Suckle).
Next morning she came smiling and said she was feeling confident that the troubles will be overcome. But within a day the sister-in-law created a huge fight and walked out of the house with her parents. Anu was so sad and kept saying “this is all because of me.” I gave her Larch. I gave her SWEET CHESTNUT to place in the NE corner of the room, and to sprinkle CRAB APPLE and WALNUT around the house.
For the mother I gave RED CHESTNUT and WILLOW.
For the brother, I gave OAK, CHICORY and WALNUT.
I asked Anu to do forgiveness and told her mother also to keep forgiving the daughter-in-law.
She came running next morning, “Amma, the house is peaceful. My sister-in-law returned and apologized to my brother. She actually fell at his feet and said she would never again fight over me. I have also apologized to her. We are a happy family now”.
Thank the flowers.
Since that day, nearly 2 months ago, Anu is now happily earning extra money by working in a courier company along with my household, her son is admitted to UKG and sister-in-law helps with the boy’s studies and looks after him. There is respect for Anu and all is well.
I am ever grateful to Naran and to the Flowers for the joy they bring to so many families.
Anu is the local advertiser of flower power in Kanchipuram!!! I have many people seeking remedies.
I have just come across your website and find it very interesting.
I notice that your reply to a question from a reader whether angel numbers can be used for marriage – you have asked to try the numbers. How exactly should one go about it?
May I know what specific number one has to recite for marriage? Is it 520? Does one have to recite it stating “marriage 520” or just the number alone? Also can one just write this number and if so, whether one should also write the word marriage next to it?
If you could give some idea as to how one should go about it, I would greatly appreciate it.
When one goes to a hopeless situation, 520 will work. Just chant 520. It is enough.
For marriage chant VALLABAM, GAJAANANAM, EKADHANTHAM.
For chanting 520, does one say it as five hundred and twenty or five two zero? Please pardon my ignorance, but I’d rather confirm and recite the right way instead of just guessing.
Also how many times should one recite “VALLABAM, GAJAANANAM, EKADHANTHAM” for marriage?
I know this website is helping many people now and will continue to do so. And it’s all due to your selfless work. God willing, I hope I can attend your courses some day.
Whichever way is convenient, you can do.
Write it on a paper and go on looking at it.
In addition, to saying five hundred twenty, write 5 in green ink, two in orange and 0 in black.
Vallabam is a very powerful mantra.
For chanting mantras there is no time limit. Just chant and sink into the vibration. Enjoy the resonance. Reciting should be done with involvement. If you do so, each and every organ, and each and every cell will enjoy and chant along with you. Chant the mantra without expecting any result. Expectation will dampen our action. Chant with full faith and this faith will carry you to heights, as per the divine will and order. Just accept whatever comes.
Is it for every reason or just for marriage? Regarding every numbers suggested by you in Angels Number what are the colors for each numbers accordingly?
I will present this in a separate article.
The color suggested is for 5 2 and 0 – universal. But here green color will initiate communication. Orange is for joy and enthusiasm. Black is for creativity
Remain Happy Irrespective of Obstacles in Life
I am from a religious Hindu Brahmin family. I got married before 8 years. The problem now I am facing is my husband is too religious and this is affecting my personal life. He is much attached to his family members. Not to me. Not showing interest in married life, but showing more interest in all other things.
I am facing plenty of obstacles in all aspects of life. Even in treatment for progeny. I am much confused. I will not separate even a lid from the container. Because I have the thought, pairs should not be separated. But all are waiting in line to separate my pair from me. Whom shall I blame? Everybody, including his closest relations. One more son is there for my in-laws.but expecting my husband for all. Not disturbing elder for anything. Both financially and physically and spoiling my life only.
Chant “BASKARAM PRABODHAM”
Thanks a lot for your immediate response.
Gone through your site and read all your mantras, Bach flower remedies, switch words, animal spirit. All are fantastic and excellent.
Chanted Vallabam Gajaananam Eka Thantham in crisis and experienced the results.
All are working well.
The main change in me before chanting is if anything gets postponed, I will get angry and expose it. But now anything gets postponed, I am not getting angry and mind is getting convinced itself as everything is in divine order and it is for good only. I am able to experience it.
Thanks a lot once again for all the services rendered to human kind and helping people suffering like me.
I will start chanting BASKARAM PRABODHAM. Can you explain the meaning of the above because I am having the anxiety to know? How many times to chant/ write?
THANK YOU. I am happy that you are using most of the techniques.
We can remain happy without having anything. When we remain happy, we attract what is good and anything bad is repelled. Our happiness should not depend on anything outside.
Baskaram Prabodham will keep you in a happy state whatever the situation is outside.
Best of Baskaran’s (the sun-god) grace!